Did you ever try something over and over again, with one failure after another? Then you find a friend doing the same thing, so you decide to work together. In a matter of weeks you are able to see progress.
So many people try to be the Lone Ranger in business; they try to be the star at the job, or the one who scores all the points in the softball league. We have heard the phrase over and over again: “There’s no ‘I’ in team.” They teach more and more how a team is needed for success. But in life many people try to work on their own, using trial and error, learning the job as they go along. The concept of a salesperson helping you buy something new by walking you through the process, learning about you to help find exactly what you need has become nothing more than salespeople just helping themselves to your money to keep their numbers up.
Let me tell you a story of how people-coaching could change your world: A few years ago I was able to get a real estate investment company started. I had been to many seminars that taught how to buy homes and resell them, or how to have the right income from rentals. I was told so many times that you can buy a home with no money down. But when I talked to different realtors I was told that stuff they teach at the seminars just doesn’t work. You have to have good credit and money to put down to buy. So I still kept reading and studying what programs I could use to do this.
Then I was able to get some help. I actually talked to a realtor who was doing the same thing I wanted to do. I told her what I had, what I wanted to do and shared the goals. She walked me through many of the processes, but I kept hitting a wall. She then suggested a way to get around that wall over time so I could get income coming in. It was a step-by-step process to get me through; she would coach me on the process then ask me if I had done the work. After I did my work she would show me the options that worked for me when I was ready.
Now imagine if you wanted to start a new workout routine, but you can’t seem to get yourself motivated to start. A few years ago I was able to reconnect with a childhood friend, Marc, who only lives three hours from me. He told me how as he turned 40 he wanted to get into better health. He and his wife started to ride bikes and when they started doing it together they pushed each other to keep up with the workout. They now ride and race their bikes in many races and rides all over the country. Imagine how far he would have gotten had he tried to do this on his own; without the support of his wife he likely would only have done it until hitting resistance.
So, how do we, as coaches, help you become accountable? In life we all hit walls, the wall of no money when you are trying to get a new business off the ground. Maybe it’s the wall of not having the breath to finish your first race. Or the time you work to plan a great family event for the first time and your child ends up sick. Whatever the wall is, you hit them.
As a coach we are there to remind you of the goals you set for yourself, letting you know the goals are more important than the struggle you are now facing. We ask you the questions to make sure that the list of goals you set for yourself is truly what you wanted to do. We remind you that if you choose one path instead of the other, what the results will be. We show you the benefit of where you are going when you see no progress.
In this life you could work to do all of this yourself. You could find the person who calls himself a coach while taking your money and making you feel good. Well the idea behind a good coach is to push you towards the purpose you set out in life. Working by yourself you could make it or you could keep running into walls as I did for years trying to start my real estate business.
In your life, if you have friends or family that you have used for you’re coaching, make sure they hold you accountable. They are pushing you towards the purpose and passion you truly have in life. If they are just telling you what you want to hear then it’s time to get someone who will keep you on track, If your purpose and goals are that important in life then it’s time to hire a life coach to get you past the obstacle or wall that you are stuck on.
I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach; it’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Get someone to hold you accountable to reaching your goals, and become the RockStar in your world.
