Did you ever notice that people tend to talk more about what they do not have than about what they do have? So often when meeting with people I ask these two important questions: What have you been most successful at? What has not worked for you?
People tend to talk more about what does not work and focus so much on it. They are the ones who, when you suggest ideas to them, are the first to talk about how they will wait to act on that one.
I was thinking about this as well as and the thought of seeds and planting. I thought of why we do not have the pay we want or need now. We have already talked this week about how so many give up before the reward comes, others stop planting and nurturing what they have started far before the fruit comes.
Today I want to focus on those that are simply planting the wrong seeds. You see, if you talk about how things won’t work, if you focus and pour yourself into what will not happen, you will bring that to success first. You will bring on the failure.
I know everyone is ready for me to tell you how you think I’m so great at this. Well this has been one of my greatest challenges in life. On Tuesday, I mentioned how I still deal with the issues of depression in my life. I work really hard not to talk about this, as I never want to make that my focus–ever. It is something I must deal with; however I do not wish to keep planting seeds to make it grow.
I have always been a person who looks at the negative side of things and lose my focus on the great things, sometimes keeping them from happening. Yes, I have been the person to give you the reasons why something will not work. I get wrapped up around the pitfalls and setbacks.
I know I must be real when it comes to helping clients and be truthful about it to help them. But how do we change to keep this from being a focus? How do we change the world and not make these the seeds we plant?
First I must let you know these are my suggestions; I am looking for answers on this myself. Here are some ideas I have: Maybe we should read more positive things. Maybe we should write and read more positive affirmations. Maybe we should put out one of those jars and put money in each time we speak words that are negatively influencing us.
There are so many ideas I could keep naming, but instead, I’m going to ask you to help. Put your suggestions in the comments area below. Let’s change our words and get our cups to overflowing again.
Tim Gillette is the Creator of The Rock’N’Roll Keys to Business Success, using music, motorcycles and mentorship to create Entrepreneurs who lead. To find out more about upcoming webinars sign up here . Free Online Training that Rocks