Finding real solutions to real problems is a tough job. This week I am sharing ideas that we need to gut check on and make choices that are needed to improve life and business and do it now.
A few months back I had some potential clients come to me who told me they really wanted my help in making changes that would give better profits in business and to help them deal with the lack of attraction to what they offered. They were hitting a wall of rejection everywhere they went and told me they wanted help getting back on track.
I jumped to find solutions to the problems and wanted to help, but forgot to do the “before” coaching test to make sure they were coachable. You see, so many people want to jump to get help from those who are successful, people who, as they term it, build strong walls with the bricks life throws at them. But while they think they want change, they actually just want someone to stand on the sidelines and cheer them on. I am proud of the fact that I get to make huge changes that bring outstanding results in clients’ worlds. But the real changes aren’t easy and they require work.
I have been a coaching professional for almost three years, but before I made this my profession, Zig Ziglar told me almost 10 years ago now that I was already a coach. But I had to learn the difference between being a coach and being cheerleader.
Cheerleader: the person encouraging you, saying “you can do it,” “way to go” and giving you a boost of hope. They shout inspiring words from the sidelines; they move the crowd to encourage you further; they spur the crowd to cheer and keep you in a winning mode.
Coach: the person who makes the hard choices, giving you tough, real-life changes that must be made to win this. They do not always give you the nice speech that you are doing a good job, telling you to “keep up the good work.” No, a coach is the one who sees what you are doing wrong and points it out. Coaches give you exercises; they make you practice to lose the habits that are holding you back from the victory you need. They are not looking at winning one game, but rather are looking at the entire season and then they give you the tough steps to take in each game to make the season successful.
Well, I am the coach, and I found out a few months ago that I need to make sure when people come to me they are coachable. I must make sure potential clients come to me to change habits and work on losing the mindset that is keeping them in failure. This is the reason I am a much sought-after coach (and I’m not telling you this to toot my own horn). People come to me ready for the hard work, ready for the real success. I am going to get them there but it won’t always be an easy road.
If you have been following the cheerleaders telling you that lie – “keep it up; you are doing good; success is coming soon” – then you can definitely do it, but what will you learn that will help you make the changes you need for success? If you are ready for the improvements that work and work now, it’s time for a coach not a cheerleader.
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I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Are you ready to do what it takes to become the RockStar in your world?