Missed Opportunities

Good Tuesday morning to you. With the few short weeks left in the year 2011, getting things right for success in our lives is definitely something we should be working on. The idea of this week is to get you to find the tools for your success and make a success out of what you have. So many in life will miss the tools that have been placed in front of them because they a lack belief in their personal success.

The idea of missed opportunities came to me as I was reading responses to an invite I sent out for an event I was speaking at. I read a post that someone made in response to the invitation. The person who wrote this was a personal friend so I’m not going to point out the exact comment that was made. I’ll just use it an illustration of how we misread things that could be the very tool that we need for our next step in success.

When was the last time you half-read something and said “Now that is not for me.” A few months ago I was invited to an event that was a benefit. It was hosted by a women’s group. When reading the invitation I said, “I’m not a woman so this group is not for me.” Well, it was being hosted by the women’s group but it was not just for women. It raised money for a great cause for children – just like the biker events I attend that raise money for kids for different events over the holiday season.

In life, I have seen people read just one line then make a choice not to attend a networking event because it looked like it was a singles event or because it looked like it was for self-employed people and they work for a bank as an executive. Since they made this choice based on just a small amount of information, they usually get mad at you when a competitor of theirs gets a contract they could have gotten if they had showed up to the same event.

So in life, make sure you realize the things you are saying “No” to. On Sunday I was opening up my Facebook page to read about a friend that Gwynne told me went down on his bike over the weekend. The first thing I saw, however, was a good statement that my friend Sandy wrote on her facebook page: “I’m only responsible for what I say, not what you understand or think you hear me say.”

So before you get upset with that friend who watched the business you were supposed to get go to another company; or when you are upset that you did not get the invite to the place where you friends decided to announce his new program that you have been waiting to take part in, make sure you are listening to all the information coming in before you decide, “Oh, that is not for me.”

I am going to leave you today with another of my stories from my trip this year. I left to ride my bike to my mom’s house in the end of April; it was a multi-state trip. After I left, my Harley Riding group started a contest where you needed a picture of you your bike and a pamphlet at the state line. You had to be the first to that state with your picture to claim the state. Well, it was started after I left for that trip. I would have been the first to get every state northeast of Texas. But I was not reading to any of the chat boards, or attending the events that would have told me that was going to take place. So, when I returned home at the end of May I watched as so many were taking the trips to get those states I had just ridden through. Yes, I picked on my friend Jonathan and I told him he should have given me a heads up. But it’s not his fault I did not succeed. He was telling people but I was not listening.

In life you are the one who is responsible for your own success. If you have failed, if you have missed the chances that you should have gotten, well it’s not someone else’s fault. Wake up and start looking around you. The keys to success are more than likely right in front of you. While you may be sitting complaining about who beat you to it, or why you didn’t get the chance, others are climbing their ladder of success.

Many of them are doing it while working two jobs as a single mother, working overtime three days a week even when they wake up feeling sick. They do it while having to eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, or eating off the dollar menu at McDonalds. They are not handed success; they are taking the life they have been handed and working with it to dig out of the holes they are in. They are building their own success with the bricks that others are throwing at them. What is your tool of success that you have missed this year? Are you turning on your hearing, opening up your eyes and feeling around to find the light switch to create a brighter tomorrow? Now is the time to do that.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love the journey you are on. Look around at the opportunities you are missing to become the RockStar in your world.

You must work for it

Good Monday morning to you and welcome to another week. As 2011 is winding down, we are in the middle of the month of November already. Next week is Thanksgiving here in the USA. Many have been posting something each day on Facebook about what they are thankful for. I must say I am thankful that I was born in the country I was born in. I have met and talked with many of you from other countries and we all have pride in where we are from. No matter where your home is, there is one thing when it comes to personal growth that is the same all around the world: to be successful you must do your own work.

Recently, I was meeting with someone who was complaining that they did not have the resources needed to be successful. It made me think of the many things that I was given. While I’m not going to say my dad was a perfect dad, he gave me the tools I needed to make my life the success that it is. I feel no matter where you are from, who you had for family, you are given what you need to succeed. If you could not manage to do anything with what you have been given, that is your problem, not the fault of anyone else.

We all need to take what we have been given and make something of that before we can be successful with something else. This is why some people get a great education and then work a job that takes them nowhere in life. Then we see stories where men drop out of school and create a new world. We are given tools each day for our success but some will take an attitude that it’s not enough and will end up doing nothing; others will take the small amount of tools and build a dream that leaves those who know them best in awe of what they have created with it.

If you cannot get a good enough job, maybe you need to be building a life right where you are at. For me a few years ago, I could not figure what I was going to do next. I stood in my friend Donna’s office and she asked me, “So what are you going to do?” I told her I did not know. After a few months of trying different jobs, I finally gave up on trying to find some fancy job and took what was offered me. At 38 years of age I took a job as a barista at Starbucks. While moving up at a coffee shop may not be a dream to most, I found some great things. It was surprising to one day have people walk in and offer me jobs to run other companies.

When my daughter Jess moved to Dallas in 2006, she could not find a job here in the corporate world of north Dallas. So she took a job at a sports bar that was near our home. She worked lunches, dinners, afternoons whatever she could to start building her life. All the while, she was not sure if she was going back to school but she kept her attitude up while working at a bar. An office group from a local magazine came in to eat lunch on a regular basis and soon she was offered a job as receptionist at the magazine.

Many of us may hate the place that we are at right now. But you have been given the tools to build success where you are, in our world of bad times, hard times, poor economy, recession, depression. Your life is what you make it, if you want to leave this crummy job and get a promotion, or if you want to start your own blog, maybe even start your own online fishing goods store, it’s time to shine where you are at. Take the success tools you have been given and build from here.

This week we will go through a few other topics of tools that we have for making our lives a success. Walk into your job today with the attitude that you are successful right where you are now. Wake up to your mate and think “I am in the best relationship for me.” Look at your kids and say “I am successful and have a great family right now.” Stop looking at life and saying “If only I had a better house then  my garden would look nicer.”

Today is the day you change your attitude and make the world more successful with the tools you have already. You change your belief in the world by changing your attitude towards where you are now.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Change your attitude and use the tools you have to be a RockStar in your world.

What is Your Mindset? Fear or Faith?

Good Thursday morning to you all. I thank you, my faithful readers, for the encouraging words you tell me about how these posts help you. I am writing this post from my bedroom after a long day. Many things happened today that are going to go into this blog.

Yesterday I was asked about my motorcycle riding. I bought a new motorcycle over the summer. I did not make a big post about it, as I really don’t want to make this blog a place for boasting about my life. But in buying that bike, I had to get used to a different type of ride for me. I had taken rides on many other bikes before I purchased this one. At the time, I would not make the change because those bikes did not ride the same as the one I had. Well this bike got me out of that comfort zone. I decided to not be afraid of it and get used to the new feel of it. That is exactly what I did. But still I wondered: why am I so fear-based that I was not willing to try something new?

One of the questions I was asked today is one that I’m asked many times: “Do you wear a helmet when you ride?” Today was the first time I asked a question back: “Why do you ask if I wear a helmet?” The response I got to my return question is what gave me the idea of focusing on our mindset of fear rather than faith.

The thinking of this man was that it’s safer if you wreck to be wearing a helmet. I have heard this thought many times from people and realized they are automatically thinking of wrecking, not the actual riding. When I get on my bike I’m not thinking about wrecking; I’m thinking of riding.

One of the training tips taught in motorcycle riding courses is to track past an obstacle when you see one in the road. If you look at the obstacle in the road you are focused on it and hit it every time. Well the thinking here is if I focus on the possibility of wrecking, I’m attracting a wreck. My focus is always more of a faith idea: how can I make myself visible? How can I improve my riding skills? By giving myself the mindset of faith versus fear I’m keeping my focus elsewhere.

I know this is very similar to the positive outlook question “Is a glass of water filled to the midway point half empty or half full?” Your outlook is the way you see life and it’s time to look at life with a mindset of faith.

I’m not saying this will keep bad things from happening to you. And it’s good to be prepared in life in case things do happen. Seatbelts are a good invention that have saved many lives. Airbags in a car have saved lives. Helmets for motorcycle riders have saved lives. But people have also died in cars with seatbelts on, when airbags worked, and bikers have died wearing helmets. This blog is not about whether or not it’s good to wear these things. It’s about what your mindset is. Are we thinking from a state of fear, or acting in faith believing in ourselves?

The other thing I want to bring up today in the mindset of fear is the changes that were made to FaceBook yesterday. I was able to view them late the night before because they started rolling out just after midnight. When it comes to new and improved technology, I have personally tried to stop looking at things changing from a mindset of fear. Maybe it’s because I have many friends in the social media arena and the computer business. I know that things are not going to stay this way forever. I know software will improve or make changes. I have faith that when a company like FaceBook makes a change, it’s to improve and make it better.

Yes, change can be hard to take, but I think back to the movie, The Social Network, and the scene where Eduardo asks Mark: “When is the site going to be done?” Mark says, “It will never be finished, like fashion is never finished.” That gave me the thought that the teams of computer companies that are growing are always working to improve and change.

Yes, companies will make mistakes, like the new Coke of the 1980s or The Gap changing its logo back. There will be issues that will have to be worked out, like the iPhone 4 with the reception that did not work. They will lose some customers over it, but if a plan does not work they make improvements. That is what keeps them competitive.

Today I want to tell you how my faith in the new FaceBook turned out one great ending for my day. I opened FaceBook and who was looking at me? At the top of the page was my favorite Dude (my dad) and my wonderful cousin Abby, who I love and can’t wait to see along with her new baby, Aydian. The picture that is on the top of my page is of her with my dad, both wearing big smiles. To me it was like Dad giving his smile to me to say “I love you, son.” If FaceBook had not changed, that picture would have been down in my wall and chances are I would not have seen it. So I think this change rocked today for me. I hope you can see this in your view of faith in life.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to have the faith you will live a life you always wanted, to love what you do and those you share your life with. Start with a mindset of faith that you can be the RockStar in your world.

Where is the Money?

Good Tuesday morning to you. We are going to continue our week of problems and coaching. Today I want to address an issue that people are always asking me. If you are helping people start over where do they get the money to pay you? After all, to keep this a working business you have to find a way to get paid. If you are working and your business is not building an income you are only working on a hobby. Today I want to show you how you build to make things long-term.

I must say when I got into this business it was tough to start out. I’ve always been a person who built smaller businesses that had immediate income. While there would be money coming in right away it usually was not money that could change your life. In fact, it was often a lower income than you might expect. So over the years I have learned how to start businesses that make both immediate income, and then build to make a long-term stream of income that helps you to have more money coming in with less effort later.

Let me explain. When I was starting a car wash business it was easy to find some immediate customers so that I could have money coming in. Usually they were given deals to make them regular customers. So it meant income but very low profit for the effort. So at first you have ways to pay for food and housing, keep your supplies coming in to continue, but then you build by living on less and look for ways to refine your model to have better profit and higher sales.

So when I work to help people who have the problem of starting over, I understand they may not always have money to pay for services that I offer. I create smaller programs that are lower cost and they usually include self-help for you to take small steps to get yourself moving forward.

Another thing I often find is when people are starting over they may be spending more money on things they haven’t realized they really don’t need or that they could get cheaper better deals than they already have. In that case we get them an appointment with the consultants over at Business Rising, a group that is able to take a look at the business side of life to see if you are getting the best deals on what you are using. To make sure you are not paying for things you really don’t need. It is a joy to start helping people who, after they cut things out, feel as if they got a raise and are able to help them hire a coach to make it even better.

The next area I work with is entrepreneurs. I help people see that they have money-making ideas inside them that they never knew about. Some people I work with are already entrepreneurs and have hired a coach who was able to show them customers they were walking by every day. I have to say these are some of my favorite people to work with; they already have a creative mind and just need to stretch it a bit. What better way to do that than to have another creative mind show you that there is more profit in helping those two or three customers that you just walked by, instead of those that are currently wasting your time and paying you very little money because they don’t have the money to spend?

I am currently working on creating a workshop to present at companies, to help the employees of small and medium businesses learn to think like an entrepreneur; to help grow the company so it becomes a more profitable place, creating more jobs, and paying its employees more.

In fact, this is one of the most important things that I work on with those I help: to solve the problems in life in starting over; showing them they have the ideas inside them to create a dream of ideal life and become an entrepreneur, building a new company, charity, business, and doing it with actually enjoyment of life. Imagine living in your world, doing what you want, living with less stress, actually spending time with family and friends doing things you all enjoy. All while making the money you need, and working towards the money you want.

So do you have an idea for a business? Have you ever wanted to learn to think like an entrepreneur? Would you like to develop that idea to make your job a dream job, or create a dream lifestyle with it? Now is the time to find the money. Now is the time to take the action. It takes a process to get there, so if you want to get started the next step is up to you.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to create the life you always wanted to live, to learn to love what you do and those you share life with, create your world and become the RockStar in it.

Back to the Future


It’s Friday and time to end our week on the theme of time. This week’s theme started because I was reading some information about the movie Back to the Future. The funny thing was that after days of travel, two weeks away from home, and thinking about this very subject, I get home yesterday and turn on the TV in my office just to get some noise. Usually I turn on VH1 Classics to have the music playing. Well they didn’t have videos playing this time. Instead, it was a movie marathon of Back to the Future, 1, 2, and 3.

So to finish the week out, let’s talk about the concept of the movie Back to the Future. In the movie Marty goes back in time and through connecting with his parents at their first meeting, he alters the future of his family. When he comes back home he finds things totally changed in his life. This concept of time and how different things are done today can very much alter your future is what I want to talk about.

I first saw the movie Back to the Future as a young teen. As I get older the concept of the movie became more and more clear because as time has changed, I see the results of those choices I made as a young man. If we look back on the timeline of our lives we see these things. But look forward to the future and what do you see?

There is an adage that says if you keep doing what you have always done, then you will keep getting what you’ve always gotten. Look at your past. Have you learned from those choices that you have made? I wrote yesterday about how when you do things right, time will tell if you were the honest person. Well, over time I had to learn to make the changes in my life to make it better. There are people in my past who will tell you that I was a loser. They will tell you that I most likely did nothing with my life. They came to that opinion of me based on what they viewed in my life at a given time. People may have done that to you. Here is the key: you are not bound by how others see you. You make the choices that will change your tomorrow. Look at your past, see what went wrong and fix it. But also look at your past and if something has given you great success, repeat the process.

Now, looking at the movie again, in the second Back to the Future movie, older Biff walks up to Marty in a café and talks to him thinking he is talking to his son and says “How does it feel to have a father who took his life and totally flushed it down the toilet?” Imagine going 20 years into the future and having someone tell you that about your own life? Makes you wonder if what you’re doing now is really important and working for you.

Think about your life today; look at your past and determine if you made bad choices and are working to correct them. Look to your future. What do you see if you work on this same pace you are working on now? In the end of the series of movies, a question is asked by Jennifer, Marty’s girlfriend. She looks at a paper and says to the Doc, “The paper I brought back from the future is erased. What does that mean?” The Doc says, “It means your future is whatever you make of it, so make it a good one.” That is my word for you today. Time can be your friend or your enemy. You choose what you are going to do with it.

I’ll leave you with a question about the movie that took me years to figure out. What was the one thing in the movie that Marty had to get over that was holding his future back?

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live the life you always wanted, to love what you do and those you share life with. Now is the time to take the steps needed to be a RockStar in your world!

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