I have repeated this story many times. They say there are three things you can look at that will tell you where a person will be in five years: The programming they put into their minds, what they do with their spare time, and the close friends they keep or people they hang out with.
Another of the things I heard in the seminar I attended a few weeks back was that your salary is the average of that of the five people you hang out with most. If you are the one with the highest income, you will be headed downhill from here. And, taking it a step further, if you are the person in the group of five who has the most wisdom and knowledge, you will also be headed down.
Today, in our week of things to say “no” to, is the idea of how to handle those people who will do nothing but bring us down. I know many people who read this will say, “But they are my friends and I love them.” Well, again, the other teaching I go back to is you need to have a mentor who is pulling you up and someone you are mentoring who you pull up as well. You need people in your life who lead you and those who you lead.
Take a look around. Are the people who you hang out with all struggling — with life, with business, with too many things all at once? Well, it’s time to build yourself a mastermind group that includes people who will pull you up, who will elevate and challenge you. I’m not saying to leave your friends, but it’s time to start growing and learn from those who can teach you as well.
A few months ago I stopped attending several of the meetings and events I attended regularly last year. It began when I stood still one day in a networking event and realized I was the most successful guy in the room, aside from the man leading the group.
Sure, that may sound really cool, but it’s not. I was attending these events to meet people and to learn things to improve my business, and my life. Many of those in the room had been attending for years and had not grown at all. That is what I mean when I say you need to have people around you who pull you, or push you to get out of your comfort zone.
Many other people have come to me wanting joint ventures. I heard a message a few weeks ago from a man who carefully picks his joint ventures. He does not want the business reputation he built to be torn down by one person who is just looking for a ride.
This is a tough time to say “no.” But it’s one that is needed to keep you growing in life. Don’t let a friend who refuses to grow be the cause of your death. You have something in that mind of yours, a purpose you are alive for. Let NO one keep you from that purpose.
I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Say “yes” to growing and become the RockStar in your world.