Failure to Plan: Everybody does it Do you?

I wanted to do a weekly theme of planning. It’s one of the steps in my guided program. We talk so many times in life and in many different areas, about planning. There are hundreds of professional planners out there from wedding planners, to event planners, to business consultants who help you plan out your business.

Well more people than you would think come to me all the time without a plan and want to be successful at life. We all want to be successful, but so many want it without making a plan to get there. The idea that we can make it happen without planning some steps along the way is the worst plan you can make.

Some of us think we can just get out and start working and expect a plan to come together for us. Trust me on this: it is one way to keep yourself running in circles with no hope of hitting the target you want. I have tried to run my life and business this way; it just frustrates me.

I want to think of a plan like you would think of a bullet being shot at a target. As I grew up, my father taught us to target-shoot. I remember the first time I went skeet-shooting with my dad.  When you are shooting skeet you use a shot gun; it shoots small pellets which scatter the farther they get from the gun. By contrast, when shooting target with a solid bullet, you can shoot to hit the target at a farther distance.

Imagine your plan is to hit the bull’s eye of a target, and you are using the shot gun which will not go as far. Too many people in life are shooting at the target they want to hit with a shot gun and hoping that it will make it as far at the bullet of, say, a .45 caliber.

It is most common to have people tell me of having no plan and great goals, or a great dream. They have no idea how they are going to reach such a goal. When I was putting together this program for our workshops, it focused on the idea of finding the passion, defining the dream. Then you need to plan out how you are going to get there.

Well this week we are going to have five things about planning to reach that goal or dream. Today we need to understand that if you have no plan, you will not reach any goal in a matter of two months – a short amount of time. It takes time; first you must make the goal, and then write a plan to reach it.

Next week we will talk about the ideas of change. As I looked back over my life in the past 20 years, I was looking at how far I have made it. The times it would just “come out better” on its own, those times I was just shooting in the dark at an idea of a plan, there were so many things I really fell short on.

So this week let’s focus on getting a plan to get your life to where you want to go. We all know where we are, we know where we want to go. It’s this stuff called life we are living in right now where we need something to guide us towards that goal.

So how is your plan to reach the goals you have set for 2012? Are you one who has no plan in place to make that happen yet?  Take a piece of note paper and write down a short outline of how you will reach your goals this year. This is your beginning plan.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach; it’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Get a plan to become the RockStar in your world.

3 Forever

It’s Friday and we are going to close out this week’s theme of “Screw-Up to Success.” I want to use this day to talk about one of my heroes in life. Each time I search for information about this story or tell it to someone, it always grabs on my heart strings.

Many ask how I come up with the motivating ideas and stories that I use. Well, they started with three things in my life: I love rock music; I love movies; and I love American pop culture and things that just say “America.”

Well, this story starts with a man who, in 1979, took the auto racing sport by storm. He was the Nascar rookie of the year. Dale Earnhardt came on the scene of motorsports and quickly became a star. The next year he would win his first championship in Nascar. He followed with six others over the years. He became the sport’s biggest star and most respected racer.

Dale had one challenge that kept him going for years. Every February, the Nascar season begins with its biggest and best-known race, The Daytona 500. Dale wanted to win this race, but each year it seemed to get away. Something would happen, from car troubles to poor planning on things like fuel use, and although he might come close to winning, he couldn’t pull it off.

From 1979 to 1997 — 18 years — that race got away from him. He was the Nascar champion seven times and tied for the record with one other racer. But he never won this race. And the story gets better.

The same track that this race is run on hosts other races and Dale would run several races on that track over the years. As a matter of fact, it was his most-winning track to race on. But in the one big race of the year, the Daytona 500, he would always fall short.

Then, in 1998, Dale finally won the Daytona 500. I only wish I could describe the respect that was shown by the field of drivers that day as Dale came back into the pit area headed to Winner’s Circle. Every person from every pit crew came out to pit row to shake his hand or give him a high-five to congratulate him. Everyone in the sport knew how long he chased that win; they all felt like they won that day. It was a great victory for what was the sport’s greatest racer.

But there is more to this story. As I said, over his life, that track was known as Dale’s most winning track. In the three years that followed that race, Dale and his wife started their own racing teams, building a car for his son, Dale Jr. Then he added a car in 2001 for a racer he personally believed in, the younger brother of his friend Daryl Waltrip.

Michael Waltrip took the track in the Number 15 car to race for a company owned by Dale and his wife on the February 18, 2001 running of the Daytona 500. It was a good race that day and, as the final laps were winding down, the top three cars were Michael Waltrip, Dale Jr., followed by Dale Earnhardt’s car. It seemed so obvious that Dale was in a happy position to watch two cars he owned leading right in front of him. To see his son and his friend and know one of them was going to win it. You could say in years of learning from mistakes, he passed that wisdom on to his son and his friends and now he would see the fruit of that learning.

But as the last corner was rounded, Michael and Dale Jr. took a strong lead and Dale got caught in an accident. The accident would take his life before he got to walk to victory lane with those he loved and had helped with his learning from all those mistakes he made over the years.

This post was kind of long today and I hope you get this great message from a story that I think of every time I think of learning from screw ups, learning from failure, making the improvements to make it better next time. Dale Earnhardt spent his years in racing messing up, learning from it, coming back the next week and trying it again.

Dale was always known as the guy who was in the garage teaching everyone great things to better their races each week. Dale died knowing all he learned was passed on; he watched as those he had taught and believed in the most would go on to win the race in the last seconds of his life.

Over the 20 years of racing and learning, Dale’s cars were some of the most winning cars on the Daytona track. He kept learning after every mistake he made, he built a racing team and company that built cars to win on the track that eventually took his life. I mentioned the other day in a tweet that it’s never too late to learn. Dale was learning and passing on that wisdom that was used to make his teams and the sport a better sport over the years.

Dale knew failure in his life. After two failed marriages, he had a wonderful long marriage to his last wife, Terresa. He enjoyed the life he lived. He was a giver and a great man who learned from his failures. I’m sure if he were alive today I would tell you he still believed his greatest success was his family and one of the greatest things that came into his life was his wife. That was very evident when you saw them together at any events.

When you love your life and love what you do, you will spend your life enjoying what you do and then working to improve until the day you leave this earth. I have lost many friends over the years; the ones that were the greatest friends were the ones who were like Dale. They failed at things, learned from them, gained wisdom, made their lives better, then offered to help me do the same.

Dale Earnhardt was one of my heroes in life. I know he was not perfect, but he led the way with his work to make his world better. I hope from this week you learn to go through the screw-ups, learn from them, try again and succeed.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do, and those you share your life with. Learn from your screw-ups and build success to be the RockStar in your world.

Screw-Up To Success

Why do we all want everything to be perfect? We live in a world that is not perfect but we will all have dreams to see it perfect. Our world will never be perfect, no matter how much we work to perfect it.

So why do we work to improve ourselves if the world will never be perfect? Because if we don’t, we will lose ground. Not only is the world imperfect, it is constantly changing; things don’t stay the same and will, in fact, get worse if we don’t intervene to improve them. So we build a system of improvement to keep us at a place for building.

This week’s theme is about the idea of screw-ups. We will mess up in life; we will screw up. That is a part of this world that is plagued with (I hate to mention the word) sin. A preacher told me once, if you are going to sin, then sin like a man.  We need to confront our screw-ups, learn from the things that we mess up on, and work to improve our lives.

As I am writing this today, I myself am still worried that I cannot make this post look perfect. Gwynne, my editor, also wants it to look perfect and spends much of her time worrying about whether or not we can transfer information back and forth as she travels so she will be able to edit each blog as carefully as she would like to. And even when she edits carefully mistakes get through.

As I research and write each blog, I am always looking for the perfect examples, the perfect ideas to present with the greatest content I can fine to help you. To do this I must do research to make sure my I’m giving you better information than you can get from somewhere else.

But like anything else in this world, I am not perfect and I cannot always make things perfect. I want you to understand even I struggle sometimes to get all the information to make my posts give the perfect information – or as close as I can come.

My workshops are all about helping you understand that you are not able to make things perfect and you will screw up sometimes.  Working through those things that you screw up on, learning from them, then trying again, is what will help you grow.

As I was working to prepare this week’s theme, I was stumbling. I have just come off a tiring week of planning to get our first Dallas workshop off to successful, RockStar beginning. Well, our workshop went off as scheduled and it was successful, but full of many imperfections that most could not see.

I have been part of many other events in the motivation industry; they all have things that are not perfect. We learn and we do it again; the greatest part I now love about my life is learning from what I did wrong. I love that because I know that process of screwing upàlaughing at itàtrying againàsucceeding is what makes me better.

So as this week goes on, let’s think of those screw-ups; let’s make note of one or two ways to learn from those things so that we do better next time. Now, when you get back up after a screw-up take that learning, try it again with some improvements. Keep doing that until you are successful.  We will cover some of the ideas this week about exactly how and what you can learn from the screw-ups, how having a great team and using our relationships to build success from the screw-ups of life is part of RockStar success.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dreams, to love what you do and those you share life with. Learn from your success and become a RockStar in your world.

100% All the Time?

When I was growing up, there was a saying that many of my Sunday school teachers and youth group leaders would use: “It’s a sin to do less than your best.” I want to focus on this as we continue our week talking about numbers.

The original concept of the week was to see what numbers really matter to people in life. We looked at the money numbers over the past two days and some of us thought, “Yeah, if I had more money I could do more with my life. Just this or that amount of money and I would be all set.”

Well I want to ask this: if you are in need of money, how much time do you waste each day? A great book I read within the past two years was Tim Ferris’ The 4-Hour Workweek. It really got to me in a powerful way when he asked how many hours a day would it take to do the work I do? If we took away the coffee breaks, if we took away the time we waste going to take a smoke break or surfing the internet.

Years ago, I was working a sales job and noticed the differences between those who took many breaks and those that made many sales. With an inside sales job, you can get so frustrated that every now and then you need to just walk away. In fact, in life any job can get you frustrated to where you walk away for a break. But how many times do we do that and lose our momentum then have to restart when we get back.

Imagine if you were to give 100% effort to the things that you are doing. How much time would it take if you would focus and just get the task at hand done?  Imagine how many things in life we put off and put off when, if we just kept at it, we would get it done.

This week I have been pushing to get a lot done myself. We are putting together our first RockStar Life workshop. I have put off getting this workshop together for almost a year. But now in a matter of three weeks I have almost all the writing done for it, all the planning and just a few meetings left this week to get it all done. When I actually got to work on it, in a matter of no time at all that the project was set up.

Now think of all the things in your life that you are putting off. How many things are you just doing the bare minimum on to get by? I have crafted my own set of RockStar Rules, or Dude Rules, as I call them. I first started to set up my rules based on my love for the character in the movie, The Big Lebowski. Then I realized one day that I was setting myself up to do the opposite of what I wanted to accomplish.

If you come to my workshop you will get to hear me explain Dude Rules as part of building your RockStar dream. Today I want to tell you just one of those rules. Wherever you are at, be there. I need to be in the moment in my life. I need to be doing the best I can with the exact time I have, and that is now. We are not guaranteed the next second.

Are you doing everything you can to achieve your RockStar dream?  It’s time to realize where you want to go and find a direct path to get there. I mentioned how in three weeks’ time I put together a workshop I was planning to do. I got up and got focused to do it. I have had many distractions along the way; I have had to stop and handle a few things while still moving forward towards this getting done. But the focus on the goal, the idea of giving 100% of the time I have to work on it today, is making it happen.

So what in your life is not getting the full attention that it deserves? I want to leave you with three things that keep us in failure; they all have to do with getting out of focus, doing less than our best and wasting time. Ready? Here are the three things that lock people in Failure.

1.  Procrastination. It’s time to stop putting off what you need to get done and just do it. If you have put off trimming those trees around your house, you may actually find out, like I did last week, it only took 15 minutes to do. Stop putting it off.

2.  Perfectionism. You are not perfect; you will never be perfect; you can never design the perfect business, life, home, or family. We are human and it is not possible; everything and everyone has flaws. I know you are thinking we are talking about giving 100%. Well, even when you give the best you can, you can always improve and that is another blog in itself.

3.  Details, Details. If you’ve known me long, you know that was the name of my last business. I worked for years to perfect the details of cleaning a car. Well, getting caught up in the details of life will keep you locked in a failure pattern. Just today I was making some copies at the Law Library of our local courthouse and wasted $2 making copies I did not need. Rather than get caught up in losing $2 I just walked away and left my credit in the machine to a poor lady who was behind me. Rather than get caught up in details, I got caught up in blessing someone else’s day.

We need to work to improve. 100% is about working to do better and giving the best that you can do with talents God gave you. So what are you going to improve on this week?

I’m Tim Gillette, The Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Learn to do and give the best you are able to do in the moment you can do it, then you will be the RockStar in your world.

Believe in Failure. Believe in Success?

When it comes to the importance of mindset and belief, it was best said by Henry Ford. “Whether you believe you can or you can’t, either way you are right.” Your belief will take you on one of two paths. Your belief has either created the fear that has brought you to failure or you belief has given you the success that keeps you happy.

So many people have kept themselves from success by always looking at each thing they do with the belief they will fail. When we do this, we set ourselves up to not take the action needed to make us succeed. It takes the belief of success to get you to take the action to make the success happen.

I started this post today after taking a day off from my work. I have spent most of the month of December writing new books and programs for 2012, but I decided to take a day and just do nothing. Well my day ended but I still had to put this post together, yet I felt I could not do it. It’s funny that, with all I have written about the importance of believing in your success, I had the belief that I could not write one day’s post – and it’s interesting it would be on today’s topic! I had to actually raise my own belief that this could be a great, helpful post to help you grow before I could take it on and accomplish it.

I started to think of the many times I’ve started businesses over the years. There were several times that faith was lacking and I did not believe I would have the customers to keep the business running. But when I started to believe that the product or service I was offering was of great value, then I put the action towards it that brought success.

Did you ever hear, or have you ever heard the statement: “I will believe it when I see it.” Well, in this life that statement is backwards. You will never see it until you believe it. If you do not have the belief in what you are doing, you will not see it come to be. You see, without belief you never have the faith to take the actions needed to bring success.

Imagine your life now. No matter what tools you hold, the first must be belief that you can succeed. If you believe you will fail, you need to change that around. Stop the thinking process of “I can’t.” Here are five steps to bring belief, leading to success and overcoming the fear of failure.

1.  Keep your momentum going with belief. No matter if you are on the way up a hill in life or on your way down after a victory, keep yourself moving to always build belief in success.

2.  Always keep in mind that you have a past, or a burden to carry. Use the knowledge of your past successes (I promise you have some although you may not think you do) to drive you to believe in building success. If you keep focusing on past failures, use our next step to help you past them.

3.  Use positive of affirmations to tell yourself you are successful. I know that many people want to wait to act until they feel successful. You will never feel it first; the feeling comes after the action. So an affirmation process gets you started by telling your mind you are a success.

4.  When you have turned things around and belief is being built, keep moving forward. Just because you have reached the hilltop and are about to start the easy coast downhill, remember the accomplishments behind you and keep moving so you don’t have to start over again.

5.  Always keep building success. The words, “I knew I could.” The thoughts of building yourself up and building one success after another. Just because you are on a mountain top does not mean that you will not have to go through another valley as you continue to build. Don’t relax now; instead keep preparing for your next success.

You are the person in charge of your belief system. It will be up to you to believe you can succeed, because, as Henry Ford said, whatever you believe is what is going to happen. You are the one who controls where you go. So believe you can succeed, or believe you are going to fail. It’s up to you.

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