Failure to Plan: Everybody does it Do you?

I wanted to do a weekly theme of planning. It’s one of the steps in my guided program. We talk so many times in life and in many different areas, about planning. There are hundreds of professional planners out there from wedding planners, to event planners, to business consultants who help you plan out your business.

Well more people than you would think come to me all the time without a plan and want to be successful at life. We all want to be successful, but so many want it without making a plan to get there. The idea that we can make it happen without planning some steps along the way is the worst plan you can make.

Some of us think we can just get out and start working and expect a plan to come together for us. Trust me on this: it is one way to keep yourself running in circles with no hope of hitting the target you want. I have tried to run my life and business this way; it just frustrates me.

I want to think of a plan like you would think of a bullet being shot at a target. As I grew up, my father taught us to target-shoot. I remember the first time I went skeet-shooting with my dad.  When you are shooting skeet you use a shot gun; it shoots small pellets which scatter the farther they get from the gun. By contrast, when shooting target with a solid bullet, you can shoot to hit the target at a farther distance.

Imagine your plan is to hit the bull’s eye of a target, and you are using the shot gun which will not go as far. Too many people in life are shooting at the target they want to hit with a shot gun and hoping that it will make it as far at the bullet of, say, a .45 caliber.

It is most common to have people tell me of having no plan and great goals, or a great dream. They have no idea how they are going to reach such a goal. When I was putting together this program for our workshops, it focused on the idea of finding the passion, defining the dream. Then you need to plan out how you are going to get there.

Well this week we are going to have five things about planning to reach that goal or dream. Today we need to understand that if you have no plan, you will not reach any goal in a matter of two months – a short amount of time. It takes time; first you must make the goal, and then write a plan to reach it.

Next week we will talk about the ideas of change. As I looked back over my life in the past 20 years, I was looking at how far I have made it. The times it would just “come out better” on its own, those times I was just shooting in the dark at an idea of a plan, there were so many things I really fell short on.

So this week let’s focus on getting a plan to get your life to where you want to go. We all know where we are, we know where we want to go. It’s this stuff called life we are living in right now where we need something to guide us towards that goal.

So how is your plan to reach the goals you have set for 2012? Are you one who has no plan in place to make that happen yet?  Take a piece of note paper and write down a short outline of how you will reach your goals this year. This is your beginning plan.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach; it’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Get a plan to become the RockStar in your world.

My Mentors: # 5 Billy Cox

This week I wanted to do a series of posts on mentorship so I will take the five days of our week and do a countdown of my top five mentors. Over the years I have had many more than five but we have five days in a week so only the top five could have their stories told. We all need mentors and they come in all shapes, sizes and forms. As I highlight my top five and let you know why they are my mentors, I will also show you how you can connect with all five of them.

Most of these mentors I got to know online long before I ever went to an event they were at, or heard them speak on a tape, or even read a book they wrote. The exception is my number one mentor (who I will reveal on Friday) and who I met before I ever read his books. No matter who you have for mentors in life, you do not necessarily have to sit down and spend face-to-face time with them to learn from them. Some of my mentors I met through their online presences and anyone can learn from them that way as well. Some have books and audio/video learning packages available for you to find out more. With that, let’s get started with number five on my Top Five Mentor List.

Number five on my list of current mentors is right here in my own back yard but I have not had the privilege of meeting him in person. We have been in the same room before, but I’m not a person who runs to the front of a room to get someone’s signature and work to meet a person in that way. I do, however, like it when you do meet someone and find out they are real. Well, this man is real. If you have met or seen Billy Cox on a show (he has appeared on Fox and Friends) or if you have been to an event he speaks at, you will see he is real.

Billy has many online resources that show you how to chase your dream. With books like, The Pink Dream Book, The Teen Dream Book, and The Original Dream Book, Billy works to get you to dream again and I love his approach. He also wrote the book Get in the Game. I post many things about how life is a game and you just need to know how to play it. Billy lives the game. If you get the chance to hear him speak, you see he is down-to-earth. Even if you hear him speak on video, you feel like he is concerned about you.

I sent an email out to each of my featured mentors to let them know what I was doing. I asked if they wanted to share anything special to you, my readers. Billy was the fastest to email me back with additional contact info as well as links to his site which he had just updated. I recommend you spend some time there to see if any of his products or services could take you to the next level in life.

The thing that makes Billy so great to me is that he may or may not have known who I was, but he immediately went to my web site and sent back a few ideas to help me take what I do to the next level. As I mentioned above, he really seems to care about people. I recommend you visit his page, www.billycox.com. You can find him on facebook, Twitter, and YouTube as well. In fact, Billy and I share a mentor but you will need to read the rest of this week’s posts to find out who it is.

So who are your top five mentors in life and can you tell me why? I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Find mentors who will take you to the RockStar Dream in your life.

Shooting Star


This song was from the 1970s by a band named “Bad Company.” While the song’s story is close to the song we used the other day, this one was not inspired by something that really happened, although it seems like it could have been. The song tells the story of a young man still in school who was so inspired by a Beatles song that he joins a band. As he grows old enough, he says goodbye to his mom, packs up and leaves home, telling his mom, “I’m going to be a big star.”

The song goes into how he makes his first record, an immediate hit. This boy, Johnny, becomes a star, hitting the big time. But the fame and fortune takes their toll on his life, and he gets caught up in drugs and alcohol. Eventually he ends up overdosing and losing his life at a young age.

Last year I did a post about how we need to build a life that lasts. We talked about three great musicians who were all cutting-edge for their time died under the age of 30 by either suicide or drugs and alcohol. But this post is not about getting off drugs; we have a million messages about that from TV, radio and print ads. This post is about the dangers of not having the wisdom to deal with your success.

I am currently in my mid 40s and people often ask me why I didn’t start my message many years ago. They ask why I am just now getting into the field of speaking, writing and coaching. The truth is, I was a young fool for many years; I did some wild and crazy things. I am so lucky that those things did not end me and now I’m promoting the idea of living your RockStar dream. My purpose now is to help those who want to find success and to help those who are finding success early in life to keep it longer.

If you have read back through some of my posts from the beginning of this blog, you will see the story I told of how, at the young age of 13, I was asked by a Sunday School teacher what one word I would like to describe me at age 40.  My word was RockStar. At that young age I had the same dream Johnny in the song, Shooting Star, had. Today, RockStar takes on a meaning that is far different. I’m thankful that before I went for “RockStar” with this business I got to meet people who taught me how to live, not just to be successful.

So as we close out our week on RockStar Dreams, I hope you have found and defined a dream for yourself. Maybe it’s a small dream to the world – like that of Rudy Ruettiger we shared earlier this week. Maybe you have a super dream now like we mentioned of those running for president. I hope you have the vision to know that your dream is going to take work like we explained with the “Juke Box Hero” blog. Whatever your dream, it has to be your dream.

If you want a way to start planning your dream, let me give you a small piece of advice that Zig Ziglar gave me about writing. When writing, he told me to get a working title first; in my dream, it was one word: RockStar. Take this time and write a small working title to your dream, like I did with the word RockStar. Then take that title and find the way to define it with your life.

Come back next week to see our week about mentors; it’s another step to finding how important having the right mentors in life is to achieving your dream. I will be traveling next week, taking a road trip to be at the RockStar boot camp in Los Angeles with one of my mentors, Craig Duswalt. If you are in Los Angeles and would like to meet, send me an email and let’s schedule a time to find your RockStar dream.

I’m Tim Gillette the Rocker Life Coach; it’s time to live your dream to love what you do and those you share life with. Get the wisdom you need to build your RockStar Dream and make your success last.

Outlasting Dreams


It’s Thursday and our week has two days left in it. I have loved the response to this week’s theme of RockStar Dreams, which has focused on helping people move from the ordinary lives they have to getting a dream that motivates them. And it’s the belief in what they see that turns the dream to RockStar status.

I mentioned earlier that I first came up with the theme for this week while watching a Super Bowl commercial for KIA that featured Motley Cruë. It used a song that I enjoyed from the past and brought it back to life long after it had left the top 100 chart. It seems that many commercials feature retro songs and other ideas from the past these days.

Today I had many ideas I wanted to use for this post, and so many examples I wanted to share so let me see how many I can get in. To start, I want to use the story of the movie, Brave Heart, another ‘90s movie that taught me about living a dream, and having a dream with purpose. Then yesterday was the introduction of the new iPad. This is the first product launch that Apple has made since Steve Jobs’ death. It shows that building a big dream can last long after you have left this planet.

The idea for today is to build a dream that will last; having a dream with purpose that outlives our time; creating a dream that changes our world and the world around us. Think of the movie, Brave Heart. William Wallace’s dream was to bring freedom to his country. But that dream was not achieved until well after his death.

Steve Jobs led Apple to the top of its industry. But his dreams will be taken to new levels without him by the company he created. Take a look at those legendary ideas, and companies that still live long after their founder has passed: Walt Disney, Thomas Edison, Dave Thomas, Ray Kroc, Milton Hershey, Henry Ford. This list could go on and on. These are just some of them and they’re just in America. There are similar situations around the world – so many that I could not include all the names in this post. The ideas these people started have gone on, in some cases, for several generations.

One of the books that I recommend to almost every client I work with is, The Game of Life and How to Play It. That book was written in 1925 – almost 90 years ago. It is still relevant to personal growth long after its author has gone. It’s a great book that gets people dreaming big dreams. This world needs some more dreams that will help us reach far past what we do and take on a new life after we are gone. Let’s show a few examples out of bigger-than-life dreams.

It’s 2012 and we have some new people running for president this year. The job of president will last only four years but the impact of the job they do in those four years will last 10 to 20 years into the future. Yes, it’s a big dream to become president, and it’s a dream that reaches far past the time you’re actually in the job. The job in itself must be taken on without selfish ambition because your choices impact more people then you will ever meet.

If you want a big dream like that, then you must think past yourself. While this one post may not be the thing that helps you think of that one dream that will live past you, we hope it will be a starting place and you will start now to find a dream that will live past you and how those dreams could play out. What will happen if you are not here to finish that dream in the next 10 years?

I want to finish up today with one great thought: “what if you’re not here anymore.” In 2001 at the Daytona 500, it was a great moment as we watched the last few laps of that race. Then there was the tragedy for the top two finishers as they watched their owner, the legendary car racer, Dale Earnhardt, crash to his death. But the Childress racing team had another driver in the car with a new paint scheme and new number the following week.

Richard Childress and Dale Earnhardt had both planned that if either of them passed, the next week the other one had to go back to the track and race. They had planned that together and had picked which driver would race in their place if needed. That was how Dale Earnhardt’s legend lives on. The dream of the owner-driver team was planned in advance so the team would live past any one of its members. I hope your dream lives on past you.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Build a dream that lives past you to be the RockStar in your world.

Juke Box Hero


Juke Box Hero, 1981 song written by Mick Jones and Lou Gramm of Foreigner was inspired by a fan who stood outside in the rain for hours. The young fan longed to see the concert, wanting to see a band he loved. Inspired by the fan’s dedication, Mick Jones invited him to the back-stage party. Then he wrote the song about it.

The song itself tells the story of a young man who cannot afford a ticket to a sold-out show for his favorite band. He stands in the rain, putting his ear to the wall to hear the concert he is missing inside. When he hears the sound of a guitar, he gets his RockStar dream that will inspire him to do great things. The song explains how the next day he buys a guitar in a pawn shop or second-hand shop. He learns to play the guitar with no lessons, inspired by the sound of that guitar he heard through the wall. The fact he could not get into the show drives him to Rock ‘n’ Roll success.

In our lives we will have dreams. Sometimes, we may not have the funds to get all the education we need. We might not be able afford the tools to do the job or build the business or dream we want right away. Even as I’m writing these posts this week, I am trying to work out a way to make it to an event with limited funds. I am inspired by the sound of the event and really think it would benefit me. But with low funds right now, I’m out working magic to make this RockStar dream of mine come true.

What inspiration is driving you now? Do you have something you want to do, but money, lack of education, or lack of contacts is holding you back? As I mentioned in the beginning of the week, this idea of Rocker Life Coach was to help people live a RockStar life – not to be a RockStar at work although that can be part of getting to your RockStar life. It’s also not about partying like a RockStar to get crazy. It’s about actually living, and living an ultimate dream that only you could dream for yourself. It’s about having the family life you want, having the job you want, doing what you want to do with your time and money.

So getting back to the song, it goes on to explain how years later this young man, after going to a concert one night in the shadows, gets a sight of someone who is outside in the rain – just like he once was. I have never met the guys from Foreigner, but I have read about the song. It tells how this man now has to keep rocking to stay on top.

In any industry you work in, you will always be working to stay on top once you get there. So if you are working now to be a top performer at your company, you will find once you have arrived that it takes work to stay there. That is why I help people build a complete life, not just a shooting star to the top. In fact, we will cover the story of shooting stars later in the week.

The song is called “Juke Box Hero” because that is where he must keep his music playing in order to stay on top. If you ever look at a juke box you will notice that many older songs are no longer in there; they have to keep popular recent songs available because that’s usually what people want to hear.

In life, to be a RockStar means you will live a life that others only dream about. I have put the quote up so many times: “I do today what other people won’t, but I will live tomorrow like others will only dream of.” You see, to keep a hit song longer in the jukebox it has to be a super hit, one that is long-lasting with fans. Next time you are at a juke box look to see how many songs are in the playlist from the ‘60s and ‘70s. Compare them to how many songs are there from the past 5 years.

Take your life and think of it in the big picture of the world. Like we mentioned yesterday with Rudy Ruettiger, he had a dream that was big but he achieved it through perseverance. Eventually they made a movie about his story. Is your life story the kind they will make a movie about? What Rudy did was not that big for many people, but it was a huge thing for him. Take that one thing that motivates you; don’t let the obstacles cause you to give up. Find a way to become a juke box hero with your RockStar dream.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with, find something to inspire you to live a RockStar dream with your life.

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