Coach or Cheerleader?

Finding real solutions to real problems is a tough job. This week I am sharing ideas that we need to gut check on and make choices that are needed to improve life and business and do it now.

A few months back I had some potential clients come to me who told me they really wanted my help in making changes that would give better profits in business and to help them deal with the lack of attraction to what they offered. They were hitting a wall of rejection everywhere they went and told me they wanted help getting back on track.

I jumped to find solutions to the problems and wanted to help, but forgot to do the “before” coaching test to make sure they were coachable. You see, so many people want to jump to get help from those who are successful, people who, as they term it, build strong walls with the bricks life throws at them. But while they think they want change, they actually just want someone to stand on the sidelines and cheer them on. I am proud of the fact that I get to make huge changes that bring outstanding results in clients’ worlds. But the real changes aren’t easy and they require work.

I have been a coaching professional for almost three years, but before I made this my profession, Zig Ziglar told me almost 10 years ago now that I was already a coach. But I had to learn the difference between being a coach and being cheerleader.

Cheerleader: the person encouraging you, saying “you can do it,” “way to go” and giving you a boost of hope. They shout inspiring words from the sidelines; they move the crowd to encourage you further; they spur the crowd to cheer and keep you in a winning mode.

Coach: the person who makes the hard choices, giving you tough, real-life changes that must be made to win this. They do not always give you the nice speech that you are doing a good job, telling you to “keep up the good work.” No, a coach is the one who sees what you are doing wrong and points it out. Coaches give you exercises; they make you practice to lose the habits that are holding you back from the victory you need. They are not looking at winning one game, but rather are looking at the entire season and then they give you the tough steps to take in each game to make the season successful.

Well, I am the coach, and I found out a few months ago that I need to make sure when people come to me they are coachable. I must make sure potential clients come to me to change habits and work on losing the mindset that is keeping them in failure. This is the reason I am a much sought-after coach (and I’m not telling you this to toot my own horn). People come to me ready for the hard work, ready for the real success. I am going to get them there but it won’t always be an easy road.

If you have been following the cheerleaders telling you that lie – “keep it up; you are doing good; success is coming soon” – then you can definitely do it, but what will you learn that will help you make the changes you need for success? If you are ready for the improvements that work and work now, it’s time for a coach not a cheerleader.

Consider coming to the next live event. Find out the truth to what is holding back your entrepreneur venture without the feel-good, false encouragement you hear sometimes. Come get truth.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Are you ready to do what it takes to become the RockStar in your world?



Say No to Expensive DIY

So today was a wonderful day. I started with a phone call with a coach I mastermind with every now and again. She pointed out how I need to create a higher value coaching program because of the results I have gotten for the clients I have now.

I hope to someday have a $25,000 or $35,000 coaching program, but right now I’m growing and, as you grow, you must keep setting higher goals, reaching higher to help your clients get past the level they are at.

For my next meeting of the day, I was sitting with another coach. I believe she could create programs with the very things she has in place now, reaching clients with fees that are comparable to mine.

So I had a day filled with one coach pulling me while I’m pulling another coach; all three of us are changing lives in the DFW area and watching people reach success on higher levels than before.

Then I came back home to work on some things in the office when our new dining room chairs arrived. So I headed downstairs and they are in boxes. What did I do? I started the process of pulling them out of the box, working with my father-in-law and aunt assembling the chairs. It’s a project that took us just under 2 hours: 8 chairs 2 hours.

It was not until we were half finished that I remember what one of my coaches told me: in his life, he never does the work if he can pay someone $100 or less to do it instead. That’s when I realize our income is directly related to the value we place upon ourselves in our own minds.

It is hard to think of, but we could have paid one of the kids to put those chairs together, while I was upstairs in the office helping to create better coaches and entrepreneurs who make major changes in lives.

As I was told this morning, I have created great value in the lives of my clients and other coaches have told me I should charge more for my coaching. I was telling someone else they should create a better program, make more money as a coach and walk away from a current part-time job serving food.

Yet, eight hours later, I was in my garage doing a chore that someone else could have done faster and it would have saved me money to pay them to do it.

So we have to learn when to say “no” to the do-it-yourself mentality. I was teaching this to the people I cleaned cars for 20 years ago, yet I still struggle with all the things I do. What can you pay someone to do for you, while you work to create a better world or a stronger business that would pay you ten times more than what you are doing now? Where can you say “NO” to the DIY projects in your life and business?

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream to love what you do and those you share life with. Are you ready to say yes to become the RockStar in your world?


UPDATE: Since this post in 2012 we now have a $25,000 coaching program. It is so great over the past year to help clients that are ready for that million dollar business level. What goals have you said “I hope” and now you are making them come true?

Say Yes When Everyone Else Tells You No

There are so many people who come to me with stories of how they are struggling; it’s like their first instinct once they realize they aren’t getting anywhere is fear and begging. They have told the world “no, no, no” and now they want to find someone who has the tools to bring the world to their front doorstep for them.

You may be in this boat where you want the doors to open, where you want to hear “yes” in your business. But you told so many “NO.” Well, after my learning experiences of last week I am realizing that even though you say “yes” the world will not necessarily get easier right away, with smooth sailing ahead. You will face some struggles. Sometimes the back-up plan falls through and you cannot see hope.

Yet you are still saying “yes” because you believe that you will find a way to make it work. I remember a few years ago I was building safety nets for myself. I stepped out and took some chances; I opened up and learned to love again; I invested and gathered some returns.

Right now doors are being opened to you. The faith it takes to say “yes” is just as strong as the fear it takes to say “no.” I encourage you to say “yes” and get busy finding a way. I tell you, the rewards I have for saying “yes” over the past four years are greater that I could imagine. And I can’t imagine what my life would be now if I had said “no.”  I have the best relationship with my wife; I have a business I never could have imagined I would have. And it’s all because I said “yes.”

One of the first things my wife and I read as a couple, several years ago when we started dating, was an email from Brian Tracey that had the quote of the day from Thomas Edison. “Most people have no idea how close they were to success when they gave up.” That has driven us to make choices that by faith give rewards. They may not be immediate rewards but they are better rewards. Say “yes” even when you want to say “no” then find a way to make things happen.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Are you ready to say “yes” to becoming the RockStar in your world?

Entrepreneur Types: Business Creators

In the world of entrepreneurs there are so many ways that people could use or become an entrepreneur. When I was young, I was always thinking of ideas, from ways to make things work better, to building systems to make the world run better.

Over the years I have always struggled with what to say my profession is. It usually revolved around some business I owned, or a job I held. But as I look back at my life back I realize I have always been an entrepreneur.

So let’s take this week and look at the different ways a person can be an entrepreneur because the ideas that are shared can have both positive and negative effects, and range through many spectrums.

I myself am a entrepreneur in the fact that I create my own work, beginning with years of creating different types of business. Many people would categorize those entrepreneurs one of two ways:

1.       They are rich. We all know of great entrepreneurs like Richard Branson, or maybe the creative computer and internet entrepreneurs like Bill Gates or Steve Jobs – men who are millionaires or billionaires.

2.       They are broke. Many of us also have an image of entrepreneurs as the broke guy who is unemployed. I am reminded of the scene in the movie, The Social Network, where Justin Timberlake plays Sean Parker, and tells the college girl he is an entrepreneur. She replies, “So you’re unemployed.”

Many people in the world are the second type of entrepreneur. They create a business, or become self-employed to head towards reaching a goal or a dream. But what is the difference between the two in this type of entrepreneur?

The way I see it, the successful entrepreneurs have three things that make them successful; three things those who are struggling need to add:

1.       A plan. You need a plan that will keep the company or venture on target towards the dream. The plan also has to have some flexibility to it. When you have a plan that can change when needed, that doesn’t mean you give up the actual dream or goal; it just means sometimes you have to have several ways to get there.

2.       A coach. The most successful entrepreneurs have coaches, mentors, advisors. These are the people that will keep them from dropping the important details to keep the plan on target. They hold you accountable, they work to make sure you are always focused on the very thing you want to do.

3.       Resources. Yes this is a very important part. You see so many great ideas never get off the ground because they do not have the resources to make the venture go to the high levels.

So what can you do to make sure you become one of the successful ones?  Hire a coach to help you write a business plan. Start now lining up resources. When it comes to resources, you need to have back-ups for your back-ups.

Join us each day this week to learn about the different types of entrepreneurs, how they help, what they need to do to improve and how they are changing your world.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream by loving what you do and those you share life with. Become a successful entrepreneur and be a RockStar in your world

Prepare for Your Own Race

Over that past few months, I have had many other coaches come to me to ask how I build my business. They want to know my secrets. They ask if there is one thing that they can do to change the way they work as coaches to get the results I am getting.

So I decided to do a week that was really designed to help coaches, but it can help many others, from those who want to be entrepreneurs online to those who want to change the life and business they are in with a different system.

Now, I have studied and followed many people who have taught me these things and I want to take the next five days to share what I’ve learned from these people to create a system that works for me. If you apply them to your life and your system, they might work for you also. I hope this week’s topic helps you create your coaching system.

When I started to consider coaching, I approached three different coaches I knew and they gave me a brush-off when it came to talking about coaching. It was almost like they loved being a coach but wanted to keep the secrets to themselves to keep new competitors out.

Well the reason that I became a coach was because Zig Ziglar explained to me that coaching was helping others with the knowledge I had to save them from making the same mistakes I had made. That is what I did to help those who wanted build automotive businesses when I was working in that field. I learned the market, and then was always willing to coach them so they could learn without making the same mistakes we made. Kind of like being a parent.

So with that introduction, I want to share with you today how you need to have several different areas working for you as a coach to build a successful coaching business. They all start with two words that we use in all my teachings: entrepreneur mindset.

Today I want to start with the first step: you need to have a product to promote. There are so many places you can get yourself a starter course to help you with training. I started with something I had been working on since 2005 then I found an outline program to help me create the written part of my course in a matter of weeks.

I want to suggest three places that you can get help in creating your course to sell. Yes, you will need a course to sell. It could be for a small price as cheap as $47. Many offer then for $27. But this is a basic level you need to use to get your coaching out and here are places you can get them.

1. There are many people and businesses online that offer pre-made foundation packages where you can get many parts to start building your system. They do the writing and you just convert it with some personal additions that make it look like you.

2. PLR or Ghost Writers. The ghost writing industry is alive and well for those who want to create a product but just have no writing skills. The truth is all of the ways are mentioned here today is a form of ghost-writing.

3. Joint venture with another coach who has a program that you can sell or work to become a facilitator. There are great coaches who have put together a system to train coaches and you then become one of their certified coaches. I know Anthony Robins has something but do not know the details. John Maxwell also has a coaching system.

You need a basic course to build from. You will see over the next few days how important it is to make this a key ingredient to building a RockStar coach system.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream and love what you do and those you share life with. Find that starter program that helps others and become the RockStar Coach in your world.

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